The Night Shift
The Night Shift
Should you pay the bill if you make more money? | The Night Shift Ep. 4
Ever had a family member who conveniently forgets their wallet every single time you dine out? This week, we share our two cents on this awkward social etiquette debacle, as we unravel the norms around splitting the bill and the perils of being expected to always foot the bill. From a beet-infused signature cocktail to a peculiar extinct banana fact, our conversation navigates through some truly fascinating trivia.
What's the most outrageous thing you've ever worn to a pool party? As we unpack the cultural taboos around a joke bikini incident, we compare the differences in social expectations between cultures - a dialogue that's as hilarious as it is thought-provoking. Speaking of finding humor in the unexpected, we also take a detour down memory lane to revisit the peculiar spectacle of a towering figure on stilts at a music festival.
Ready for a little introspection? Beyond the laughter, we also touch upon the pursuit of fulfillment beyond the traditional 9-to-5 job. Sharing some of our personal regrets from our twenties, we offer insights on the value of being comfortable in your own company and the importance of chasing your dreams. And as we swap stories from the frontline of bartending, brace yourself for an uproarious, yet insightful narrative about the thrill and challenges of life behind the bar. So, pull up a chair, grab a drink, and join us for this roller-coaster ride of a conversation.
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Not nearly like as awkward, like, oh, the guy got to pay for me, he got to do this, he got to pay my bill, gotta pay my rent. Like, why do you not have your life together? Hello, welcome back. It's so great to see you again. You are working the night shift and it's actually. It's actually not nighttime just yet, but it's getting there, it's getting real close and plus, it's nighttime somewhere and that's really all that matters. It's nighttime somewhere and I have a new, you know, say a little little young Niko, night cab action. But you're wondering what's inside? It is red beet juice mixed with ginger and grapefruit juice and lime juice and Spiced rum, and it's. It ain't that bad, it ain't that bad.
Speaker 1:I'm trying to get a signature drink out here. I'm trying to figure what my signature drink should be and I'm really just experimenting with a bunch of different juices and stuff like that. So far, this one is better than the last time. Okay, yeah, delicious, absolutely delicious. Sour, not, not too sweet, the drink Very nice.
Speaker 1:But I'm gonna start this off with a fun fact. Okay, did you know that the artificial banana flavoring is based on extinct banana? You may notice that your banana flavored food products don't taste quite like the real thing. This is because commercially used banana flavoring is based on a type of banana that got wiped out by the plague in the 1950s. That's uh, that's kind of crazy to me, cuz, yeah, I've always wondered why, like like ever had like the yellow Laffy taffy. Unfortunately, like, if you ever get burdened with eating the yellow Laffy taffy and you're wondering why, like like, I never had a banana that tastes like that, and I guess that's why, like they base it up for the extinct banana, you would think that they would Update that, though you know, like, why hasn't that been updated? Like it's 1950s is a long, it's a that's pretty long time ago For you to not update the flavor of it. You're still using extinct banana flavors. It's actually kind of wild, but that's interesting nonetheless. I did not know that I Recently went out with some friends last night.
Speaker 1:We went to this little festival and Do you remember, like, if you ever go into like raves and stuff like that, like there's just like people that come up to you with that, with those like lighted gloves, and they just like start like dancing their hands in your face like they don't even say a word, they just like and I'm like, um, like bro, if you don't get your hands up my face, like I don't even know who you are. I just got here. I've never been more sober in my life and it's just like what do you get out of this, sir? Are you dancing your fingers in my face? Well, I found a 10 foot tall version of that, because it was like a guy wearing stilts and I made the huge mistake of making Eye contact with said person. And then they came to me at my friend's table and then just started dancing, had like a whole bunch of like USB strips hanging off of me. He looked like a. He was wearing a ghillie suit, like he's. We just finished sniper school, but like he's the worst sniper because everybody's seeing you, it's it was. It was uncomfortable, to say the least, and I I long so sure don't make eye contact with people like that, I mean unless you want to. But that was, that was a mistake I won't make again. Oh my god, it is actually so hot in here is actually insane. I would open these windows but then you would hear the trains and stuff like that just like booming outside my window. Oh, also, I Been getting like like text or people just like asking me, like it's the plant in the background real? Of course it is. Like what I look like, having fake plants lit it across my apartment. Like who doing that? Only real plants out here.
Speaker 1:Is it like impressive that I can keep a plant alive? I water it like every couple of days, like it's I Don't know. I put water in it. Bro, like what do you? What are y'all doing to y'all's plants? I Don't get me. To be fair, it's like one plant. Uh, it's pretty easy to keep alive because I don't have to think about too many of them, I guess. But I don't know, it's really not that difficult. It's been quite easy. Just water the plant. Guys, what are y'all doing? Nt ways?
Speaker 1:I have a question of the day and it's uh, am I the asshole? The title is am I the asshole for bringing my sister-in-law's wallet to the restaurant when she conveniently always forgets it? Uh, I'm gonna go right off the bat and start like just from the title alone, I'm thinking you are not an asshole for this, because if someone's always forgetting their wallet, forgetting their wallet, it already sounds like they're the asshole. But let's dive a little deeper. So my uh and she claims to be a 28 year old female Sister-in-law, amy, a 26 year old female, always comes to visit from out of town.
Speaker 1:She stays with us instead of a hotel and always wants to go to expensive restaurants Red flag already. She always conveniently forgets her wallet or domes up some excuse as to why she can't pay her share. She always implied that since I make so much more money than her, I should be the one to pay. And then, in parentheses it says no, not my husband should pay, but me specifically. And I mean, are you the one that makes the money? But no, but to be fair, yeah, if it's your sister-in-law and your husband is the brother. Like yeah, that's so weird how you asking the? Okay, I do make a fair amount of money, but not so much that I can treat someone every time they come into town. Nonetheless, in the past I have just paid the bill and asked her to pay me back, and she never has, damn bro.
Speaker 1:She has made a reservation at an extremely expensive restaurant last night and before we left, I made it clear that I would not be paying her bill. This is where I might be the asshole, and I'll admit I got this move straight from the episode of Two and a Half Men. As we were leaving, her and my husband went to the car. I pretended I forgot something and went back inside. I found her wallet sitting right on top of her suitcase. I put it in my purse and we went to the restaurant. When we were done eating, I asked for separate bills and she said no, we need one bill because I forgot my wallet. Again she I reached into my purse and I said this wallet, oh oh yo. That table would have been, oh my God. I would have loved to see the reactions at that table. She was extremely furious. She said I had. I should not have touched or grabbed her wallet, what you mean? So am I the asshole for taking her wallet and bringing it to the restaurant?
Speaker 1:I could see why she would even try to defend it and be like oh, you're touching my personal items, I don't go in my room, that I'm staying in, you're staying in her house. You are not the asshole for this at all. In my opinion, she is such an asshole for just all of a sudden deciding that you should be paying just because you make more like. I don't get that at all. Like the fact that you even asked to like pay the like, hey, you'll pay it, and then you ask her to pay her, for her to pay you back and she never has. Like to be fair, like just stop going out to restaurants with this lady. To be honest, like, let it be, let this be the last time you ever go out with her, because this seems like a problem and it's only gonna get worse. Like she's never apparently gonna pay, or maybe this is the light she needed, but I doubt she's gonna use this as any sort of reflective criticism on her part to start bringing wallets. Bro, that shit would have me heated Going out with some friends and they know you make the most money.
Speaker 1:So they like, do you try to make you pay for it? Like that's, bro, like I to be. Did that light just turn on? Is there an exorcism happening? I'm gonna pretend like I didn't see that. Yeah, okay, going out with your friends.
Speaker 1:Like for me me personally if I'm going out to go eat or anything like that, going out with some friends, going out anywhere, if I don't have the money for whatever activity that we're doing, then like I literally just won't go. Like even my friends are like oh yeah, we'll pay for it, we'll pay for it, don't you worry about it. Like I'll feel super awkward with that, you know, like I have to know I can have myself, even if they say that they're gonna get me. I just like, just you never know, you never know. I don't know if that's some sort of like personal trauma that I'm like, oh my God, I can never trust anybody. But still like how are you just gonna sit there and just automatically assume, just because somebody else makes more than they should pay? Like that's that mindset. Oh, I hate that mindset so much it's disgusting. So, yeah, I you are not the asshole for that in the slightest. I just just not going out with this person.
Speaker 1:Like what the hell, and how is your husband letting this happen? Cause it sounds like maybe all three of y'all go out and this is your husband's sister. How is your husband just letting his sister take advantage of you like this? Like y'all got some conversations that need to be had, to be honest, let me read some of these comments. What are the comments saying, uh, not the asshole, but you should totally have flipped the switch, left your wallet at home, only brought your license so that she had to cover the whole bill and then never taken her out to a restaurant again. Yeah, that would be kind of good. You just leave your wallet at home and just claim that like sorry, you got to pay for it this time. She made the reservation and invited you. Etiquette says that she would be responsible for 100% of that bill. Not the asshole Facts. You can't invite somebody and then have like assume that they're going to pay for you. Like what kind of mindset is that? Not the asshole? Awesome power move. But when is your husband going to step up and make her pay the bill Exactly? How is your husband letting his sister take advantage of his wife? That's a weird dynamic right there. Not a fan. I wonder.
Speaker 1:Have any of y'all ever been in a situation like that where, like you just like say okay, say, say you're the boyfriend You're going out with, like say, your girl and she's bringing some of her friends Does? Like have you been in a situation where all the girls expect you, the boyfriend, to pay for all of the girls? Like I think I've seen that in like a scenario, either on TV or or like a tweet or something like that, but that's just wild to me. Like we all got jobs here, you know, like I'm sorry, like I think maybe like that whole like mindset came from like a back in the times where, you know, maybe things weren't as equal and women weren't allowed to like have certain jobs or just jobs in general, and they may significantly less them out if they did have a job. But here in 2023, that that is not the case, at least not nearly as the at the level that it was back then. So for you to just, I don't know, put the man through the ringer like this every time you go out, like that's, that's tough man.
Speaker 1:I've definitely heard of situations like that, though. Like the the girl and her friends expect the guy to pay for everybody and then get mad when he doesn't. Like that's the type of shit that those are just red flags. So what I have noticed, though, that here in Europe, that mindset is really not a not nearly as common. I don't think like in terms of just like splitting bills or paying for the whole thing and stuff like that. Like if you go anywhere, like I've noticed that European women tend to want to pay for, like either the whole thing or their share. You know, like it's not nearly like as awkward Like, oh, the guy got to pay for me.
Speaker 1:He got to do this. He got to pay my bill. I got to pay my rent. Like why, why, why would I have to do that? You know, I don't get it. Like, maybe if we was living together and now it's my apartment, I'm paying a rent, like that's cool, but like why would I pay my rent and then your rent? Like who's doing it? Why, what's happening? Do you not have your life together? Yeah, I don't. It doesn't make sense to me, is all I'm saying.
Speaker 1:But what I've noticed is out here, it's just a different mindset. They they got their own and they go use their own and they are more empowered to spend their money on. You know, if they want to take, I've been taken out. And you know, like, say, you go out with your girl, you know, out here and she wants to take you off for ice cream or something like that, she'd be taken. You haven't been taken on an ice cream date. Guys, it's sensational the sun beaming, the vitamin D just hitting your skin, your melanin feeling. Oh, it's feeling. It's feeling sensational. Sun got you glistening and like, ooh, wee, it's hot. None of these buildings got AC. So what's the next best thing Ice cream, and you'll show to take you off for ice cream. It's really good out here, man. Life is good. Life is good, not to say that that can't happen anywhere, but I don't know. I just feel like the mindset's a little different out here, man. So it's kind of cool. It's kind of cool, I ain't gonna lie. It's kind of cool, it's kind of I'm kind of digging it.
Speaker 1:Next question, guys, am I the asshole for wearing the joke bikini? My friend got me, let's dig into it. So it was my birthday a couple months ago, had a party, got some gifts. My friend Mandy got for me a cute bikini. I liked it. She said I said thanks, she had ripped the tags off, but whatever Kind of sauce. Anyway, we went to the community pool with my roommate War bikini got in the water.
Speaker 1:Roommate immediately is like. Roommate was immediately like okay, there's some spelling errors in here. It's kind of tripping me up. Roommate was immediately like um, girl, I look and see that this bikini is now kind of see through. Okay, haha, good joke, mandy.
Speaker 1:Anyway, mandy invited me over to her place to hang out with her and her boyfriend and a few others Most leave and we're still hanging out. I'm like, hey, what if we get in our hot tub, get in your hot tub? I go change after them and meeting her boyfriend in the hot tub she's getting new drinks. I hop in immediately. She's looking down at my chest. I pretend I don't notice and just make small talk. She comes out a few minutes after and just looks in shock, eventually gets in Is that the one I bought? Yeah, I love it, I wear it everywhere, make up some stuff about how I wore to the beach, some party with a lot of guys, etc. Etc. And she just like, oh, we're in the hot tub for 20 to 30 minutes. Eventually we get out and change.
Speaker 1:She approached me after and was like, um, I'm sorry, I thought you'd notice, but it goes kind of see-through. And I'm like yeah, I know, why'd you buy me a fucking see-through bathing suit? She's like it's a joke. Wait, you knew. So you just spent the last 30 minutes flashing my boyfriend on purpose. I reply I'm just wearing my birthday gift from you. Anyway, am I the asshole? Oh, okay, okay, that's a little.
Speaker 1:Hmm, I could definitely see it on both sides here, like it's an asshole to get somebody a see-through bikini when they didn't know, especially if it's just like you know maybe you're not as uh, let's say, say you're a more conservative. You know that's definitely not something you want to be showing off. If you're going to the like I say a public place, you go to the community pool, and all of a sudden you're wearing a see-through bikini. You know, if you're that type of person and you're okay with that, then I guess that's a cool, funny joke. But like you can't be surprised when that same person wears it like to other places, like you got it for them. But at the same time, it's like wow, you really wearing see-through bikinis in front of my man's. I mean, bro, like, if you're going to be insecure about it, don't make uh, don't try to prank your friends and don't expect things to backfire on you. You know, like I definitely don't.
Speaker 1:I don't think that the person that wrote this is the asshole for wearing the bikini around. Uh, the boyfriend and other friends. Like it's truly your fault for getting her the bikini. Don't get your friend to see through a bikini and then get mad when other people can see through the bikini. Like it's. It's really, it's really simple here. But like I can definitely see why the friend would would would claim that this person is an asshole for wearing it in front of the boyfriend. But hey, it's a. It's a spicy game you play when you prank your friends. Like don't, don't expect everything to be fine and dandy. You know. Like, if you, that's a hell of a prank too.
Speaker 1:Wearing getting somebody a see-through bikini like that's you're pretty much exposing this person to the public. It's kind of fucked, if anything. The friend's low key an asshole for getting that person a see-through bikini, especially without them knowing they ripped off the tags like they did it on purpose. Like I get it's a prank, but pranks can backfire, so you've got to. If you're going to prank somebody, you just got to be able to know that there could possibly be some retaliation or some sort of things that backfire on you. So don't dish it out if you can't take it. You know, let's read the comments, not the asshole. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Plus, it's not your fault.
Speaker 1:He was already blatantly staring at your tits right in front of her. I mean, yeah, to be fair. Like this is all on them. Like you made a huge mistake and now your boyfriend's staring at another chick. Like you got the whole, you got the bikini for her. Like this is literally all your fault, not the asshole. She knew what kind of gift she was giving you. You were just getting her back in a harmless way. No one's going to die from seeing boobs. Now you can tell. Now you can all have a good laugh about it.
Speaker 1:I don't know. Shroty seems a little bit insecure, is what it sounds like. I mean, maybe she got this as a thing for you to like, try to embarrass you in some way. Maybe maybe it's not a friend at all. Maybe she's kind of like I don't know, you got to watch out for her. Sometimes you got snakes in your grass and you don't even know it. It'd be the people closest to you that you think be on your side until one day they might slip up and you see the true colors. It's a damn shame out here. Man, I hope none of y'all have any snakes in your circle. Like I don't know.
Speaker 1:I feel like lately I've been trying to like I don't really keep a big circle, to be fair Like I don't have a lot of people that hold close to me, but the people that I do I try to scrutinize a little well and I've noticed that there's some people that I would rather, you know, not see too much in the near future, so I just keep them at a distance. You know, and the people that I've known, that have been tried and true. I keep them around, keep them close, but, to be fair, I don't really even reach out to people that often. You know, I don't know what's going on with that. I really just do my own thing, like constantly, to the point where people close to me think that something's wrong, like, oh no, did I do something wrong? Why do you not talk to me? It's, I swear, I'm not trying to be like this. I truly just I don't know. Yeah, why don't I reach out to people? I like talking to people, but I don't know.
Speaker 1:I like being by myself a lot, and I would consider myself somewhat of an extrovert, to be fair. Like I like being around people but I am not bothered by being alone. Let's just say that. So I feel like it's important to be comfortable alone, because if you can handle that, then you don't really truly have to rely on people, and I'm not saying not relying on people as bad, but like you don't want to become dependent on others, you want to be able to be self-sufficient so that whenever you do find somebody in your life that you're not, it's not like a parasitic relationship. You want to be able to compliment each other in life. I think I think that's a good analogy to put that.
Speaker 1:I don't know where I was going with that guys. But yeah, man, I know, you see the do-rag. I'm still in that phase of you know, can I get my where my hug at Length of hair? I it's getting there. It's getting a little longer, though I might take off the do-rag, maybe in the next episode, who knows? Who knows, it's not that bad. Actually, I'd kind of like to earn a do-rag. So on the house. But, man, guys, I'm actually going to London next week, coming up for my birthday. I'm turning 30 years old in eight days. That sounds so weird to say. It feels so weird. My 20s are almost over. Eight days until my 20s are over and, to be fair, I've had some good 20s. I felt like I've had a good run. Not that it's over after the 20s, but I definitely enjoyed my 20s.
Speaker 1:If I had any regrets, I would say that my biggest regrets were just not following what I wanted to do more closely and, to be fair, I didn't really have a lot of structure as to what I wanted to do, but I definitely followed the old mindset of just go to school, you got to get a job and then you got to work a bajillion hours in an ability to get retirement and all that stuff. And it's like I've been doing that for so long and it's like that's never made me happy, like I've known that from a since a young age that that's not what I wanted to do. But yet that's exactly what I did. And I'm looking back. I'm like man. I wish I truly like not to say I can't still follow my dreams, but I really wish I just maybe took some time off for me to like, at least try to like find what I wanted to do in life. Going forward, I'm going to focus more energy on what I want to do.
Speaker 1:20s. I spent a lot of that working and, to be fair, I'm grateful. I'm grateful for all the work that I put into that. I'm grateful for my parents telling me to go to school. With that being said, now that I'm somewhat I'm okay, I'm doing well enough to be able to say that I can maybe take some time off of work and try to focus on some of the things that make me happy, you know, which is creating, like this podcast.
Speaker 1:I want to make more videos. I want to make videos outside of Justice podcast. I want to. I love making videos, I love photography, I love expressing myself and portraying my ideas to the greater good, even if they're stupid ideas. I just like I don't know. I guess that's what makes me an actor, for who knows? I just like talking to people, I like being out there. I'm sure there's a, I'm sure there's a job for that, but I don't know.
Speaker 1:It's 2023 and you don't truly need the traditional job anymore. You know, like it's not something that is I don't know as much of a necessity as it used to be, like you can find a way to make it. Like, you know, a successful life, a living off of not just working, a nine to five and that's really what I'm trying to get away from is that nine to five mindset. I'm enjoying traveling right now. I want to continue to travel. There's so much more places I want to travel. There's so many more things I want to do, so many more people. I want to meet so many more things that I want to experience and right now, nine to five life is. It's really not, it's not my thing. I don't know a lot of people whose thing it truly is and I know it's like. Oh well, you know everybody doesn't want to do the nine to five thing. Yeah, so, like, try to find a way so you don't have to do it anymore, like you don't have to do that. It doesn't have to be your thing, like I get.
Speaker 1:Traditionally, we grow up and people tell us that you must find a job in order to be successful. You got to go this to be successful. You got to go to this type of school to be successful. You got to get this type of job to be successful. There's so many ways to follow your dreams, follow your passion, do something that makes you happy and still make a living off of it, and that's right now. That's what I'm trying to do.
Speaker 1:So, guys, with that being said, support my dreams and smash that like button. I hope that s wasn't too loud, that was quite a spicy as. Smash that like button. Hit the subscribe button, guys. I please support my dreams. If you're not supporting your dreams, at least support mine. You know, if not yours, help mine. You know, just kidding. Guys, please follow your own dreams as well, but also like and subscribe this video, because if you don't, I'm probably gonna cry about it later. You don't want to say a grown man cry. It's not beautiful, it's not a good sight. With that being said, I got some socials, please. If you have any questions like am I the asshole? Or just any sort of question that like I could bring up on on this podcast or in any sort of video like that you want to make a video on, email me at night night shift shift at gmailcom. Follow me on tiktok at night shift PC. Instagram. The night shift PC. Twitter. The night shift P. Guys, I once again like it's, it's, it's, it's finally nighttime, the night shift. It has begun. But this Podcast is coming to an end. I hope you all have a fantastic rest of your evening.
Speaker 1:Drink you a little nightcap. You know this one is this one's sensational. Guys, I can't even lie to you Red beet, lime juice, spiced rum who would have thought? Not me. I've never been a bartender. I Feel like being a bartender would be a lot of fun.
Speaker 1:Guys, go be a bartender, tell me how it is Bartenders, let me know how you live it. What's that like? That sounds like. It seems like fun, but maybe I Feel like it could be also stressful. But I don't know, maybe that's a type of stress that like is kind of fun. Who knows? It depends on the bar. I guess you don't want to be in the rural Alabama strip club at the bar With oh yeah, those are just memories I'm trying to repress. Actually, I'm not even trying to bring that back up. I Wonder what being a bartender is like. I feel like you can hear so many crazy stories with people just talking to you at the bar, like Sharing their whole life story that you probably didn't want to hear or seeing, like Failed pickups or even successful pickup people, like picking people up at the bar, or just Good times happening at the bar, sad times happening at the bar. I feel like you see all walks of life at a bar and, yeah, I feel like that'd be so much fun.
Speaker 1:Being a bartender sounds amazing and if I was a bartender I would incorporate this drink. I don't know what I'm calling it. Oh no, I do know what I'm calling it it's the Nico night cat and I would definitely serve this to the customers and the custies. They would love it. And yeah, guys, with that, once again, please like and subscribe this video. Hit the little notion you know, flick that, flick that notification bell, just like. You know I'm saying a little little. You know I'm saying that notification bell and you'll be notified whenever I do post another episode.
Speaker 1:Now, I'm trying to make these episodes better and better each time, so I'm trying to incorporate some new skill that I've learned in video editing or video Making, the post-process making or just in sort of like, structurally. So, guys, if you have any tips, any sort of I don't know suggestions, put them in the comment section. I'm here. Yeah, guys, I love y'all. If you're still here watching this. You're crazy, but I love you, for I love crazy people. Crazy people are so close to my heart and I thank you for still being here. This is Nico. You're watching the night shift and your shift has ended.